Looking for a fresh perspective on life and success? Are you intrigued by the power of self-love and the growing shift towards self-reliance in the workforce? Do you wonder about the impact of choosing yourself in every aspect of life? Dive into this fascinating journey that explores these concepts, drawing from real-life stories of entrepreneurs, lessons from economic history, and the author's personal experiences. With a focus on self-improvement, personal independence, and innovative thinking, this narrative will challenge and inspire you to take control of your life and carve your own path to success.

Choose Yourself

James Altucher traces how societal changes, particularly after World War II, transformed the traditional model of single-income families into a dual-income model, sparking an economic boom. This shift was largely attributed to women entering the workforce while men were at war, and choosing to remain even after their return. 

Consequently, post-war America saw an unprecedented economic prosperity, with American industrialization spreading globally and the US establishing control over the global economy.

This prosperity led to the emergence of the so-called American Dream - the desire for a house with a white picket fence, a car, and sending the kids to college. This was fueled by marketing campaigns by mortgage companies like Fannie Mae, which encouraged Americans to buy homes on mortgage, thus creating a $15 trillion mortgage industry. However, the pursuit of the American Dream turned into a desperate need to always stay ahead, resulting in social dissatisfaction and economic stress.

A series of economic booms, from the stock market surge in the 1960s, to the Internet boom in the 90s, and the housing boom in the 2000s, provided temporary relief, but were followed by crashes, recessions, and a shrinking middle class. 

James argues that we no longer need to wait for organizations or institutions to choose us for success. Instead, we can choose ourselves by becoming entrepreneurs, innovators, artists, investors, and marketers. The key to this shift is building a solid foundation of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

James also explores the psychological aspect of fear of rejection and societal conditioning, using the example of a social experiment on a New York subway. The experiment showed that most people gave up their seats when asked, highlighting our tendency to comply with requests. However, it also revealed our reluctance to ask for what we want, a mindset we need to unlearn. 

By choosing ourselves, we can navigate this new era and enhance not just our lives, but also those around us.

Has the Pursuit of the American Dream Evolved into Choosing Ourselves?

James, the author, had often felt like he was constantly trying to please others, adapting himself to fit different situations and people. About twenty years ago, he grew weary of this perpetual performance. 

He decided he was finished with striving for universal approval and altering his beliefs and identity merely to conform or to be accepted for jobs, relationships, or love. That was the turning point when he resolved to prioritize himself.

Choosing himself, James realized, wasn't about self-centeredness; it was a profound acknowledgment of his own worth and intrinsic value. It meant understanding that he didn't require external validation to achieve success or happiness. It meant living authentically, true to his core beliefs and values.

To embrace self-choice, James had to release his fears, anxieties, and insecurities. He needed to shift his focus from others' opinions to his own self-assessment. He stopped seeking external validation and began nurturing it from within.

A pivotal tool James found in choosing himself was the Daily Practice, a holistic approach encompassing physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. It involved maintaining a healthy lifestyle, nurturing positive relationships, and fostering a resilient mindset.

Choosing himself also meant living fully in the present moment, freeing himself from past regrets and future anxieties. It involved recognizing and accepting his emotions and thoughts without allowing them to dictate his actions. It meant cultivating gratitude for what he possessed rather than yearning for what he lacked.

In the Choose Yourself philosophy, James believed everyone had the potential to become like the ocean — a powerful force central to their own existence, commanding respect from all quarters. The key lay in choosing oneself, in becoming the primary source of one's own validation and approval.

The journey to self-choice wasn't effortless, James acknowledged, but it was undeniably rewarding. He invites others to join him on this path — to choose themselves, forge their unique paths, and live life on their own terms.

Choosing Yourself: The Journey to Personal Independence and Self-Reliance

Kamal Ravikant, author of Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It, found himself at a crossroads: he was seriously ill, his company was failing, and he was struggling with his mental health. Overwhelmed by his circumstances, he fell into a deep despair. But, in a turning point, Kamal started to repeat the mantra, "I love myself". 

Surprisingly, this simple act had a transformative effect. His health improved, his mindset brightened, and his life started to change for the better. Kamal even wrote a successful book about his experience, highlighting the power of self-love.

Kamal's story reminds us that our happiness shouldn't hinge on external factors. When we cling too tightly to external goals, we're often left unsatisfied, even when we achieve them. Happiness is fleeting and cyclical, and when our external goals crumble, we're left in pain. Kamal's experience shows that nurturing our internal selves can bring about unexpected and profound changes.

In the modern world, the idea of a stable, lifelong career is quickly becoming outdated. More people are choosing to "disappear" from the traditional workforce and forge their own path. The rise of technology has made it possible to work from anywhere, and for anyone. Moreover, the notion of retirement is changing. The idea that we should work our whole lives to enjoy a few years of leisure is losing its appeal. Instead, people are seeking to create value and find happiness throughout their lives.

The key to this shift is choosing yourself. Whether that means starting your own business, pursuing a passion project, or simply taking control of your work-life balance, the power is in your hands. You are the captain of your own ship. 

Remember, your life is a house. Abundance is the roof, but you need a solid foundation. By focusing on your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health, you can build a strong foundation and create a life of abundance. So, choose yourself, and watch your life transform. 

It's okay to take baby steps. You don't have to quit your job or make a drastic change overnight. Start by identifying your dreams and themes. What do you want out of life? What values and passions guide you? Once you've identified these, take small steps each day to align your life with these dreams and themes. This is how you run towards freedom. This is how abundance comes into your life.

Can the Power of Self-Love Transform Your Life and Career?

Let's explore the stories of successful entrepreneurs who quit their jobs and became millionaires or even billionaires. They didn't have fancy inventions like time machines or iPhones, but they found a niche, solved a problem, and built a business around it.

Take Bryan Johnson, who quit his job at Sears and started a company called Braintree, providing credit card transactions and payment services for companies like OpenTable, Uber, Airbnb, etc. He identified a problem, found a solution, worked hard, and ended up with a thriving company. 

Similarly, Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx, saw a problem that needed solving, and she did it. She didn't have a background in fashion, but she did have an idea, a bit of money, and a whole lot of determination. She started with just $5,000, created a product that women needed, and turned Spanx into a billion-dollar business. 

Both Bryan and Sara followed some key rules: they hustled, they picked a business that was needed, they found customers, they built trust, they blogged to build that trust, and they offered excellent customer service. They didn't wait for permission or for someone else to choose their path; they chose themselves and made things happen. 

So, what's the takeaway? If you're dissatisfied with your job and want to make a million dollars, look around you. Find a problem that needs solving, come up with a solution, and then work your tail off to make it happen. Keep your day job until you're making enough from your business to support yourself. Never stop learning and improving. And remember, it's not just about the money; it's about doing something you're passionate about and making a difference.

From Sears to Spanx: Unleashing the Millionaire Entrepreneur Within

Master the art of selling and become an idea machine. The world does not teach you how to sell your ideas, which is a key survival skill. Poor selling techniques can be like asking for someone’s time without offering anything in return. It’s crucial to find the “yes” in every potential customer. The aim is to get in the door, because once you are in, you can progress. 

A good salesman knows how to find that hidden "yes" in every customer and how to tease it out. The best salesmen know this instinctively. Negotiation is different than selling, it involves saying no, while selling is all about finding the “yes.” 

Interestingly, bad negotiation can often result in great sales. For instance, James sold his first business for less than other internet businesses were selling for at the time but it was better to sell early than go broke. He also gave 50% of his company Stockpickr to thestreet.com for no money. It seemed like a bad negotiation, but they had to buy his company four months later rather than risk someone else owning 50 percent of it.

So, what is the key to sales? Create value beyond the immediate transaction. Think long-term benefits, like giving away free books to build your name or doing a project cheaply to win more lucrative clients later. Always aim to help your clients look good and go the extra mile to build lasting relationships.

To sell effectively, understand your client's history, give extra features, and even recommend competitors when appropriate. Become an idea machine by practicing daily: read widely, write down ideas, and make connections between them. This builds your "idea muscle," making you capable of generating valuable solutions effortlessly.

In essence, be proactive, stay knowledgeable, love what you do, and always think of the bigger picture. This approach not only makes you a better salesman but also an innovator who can turn ideas into reality.

Can Mastering Salesmanship and Embracing Failure Unlock Your Potential as an Innovator?

Opinions can often lead to fruitless arguments and wasted time, especially in the age of internet comment sections and social media trolls. Instead of getting sucked into these exchanges, it's often more beneficial to focus on self-improvement and eliminating unnecessary things from our lives, like outdated beliefs and unproductive habits. 

Research has shown that our opinions rarely change, no matter how valid an opposing argument may be. Acknowledging this can save us a lot of time and energy. It's also important to remember that in the grand scheme of things, our individual opinions are relatively insignificant. 

The human brain functions best when it's not cluttered with unnecessary thoughts and information. This can be achieved through practices like zero-tasking (focusing on one thing at a time), embracing failure as a learning opportunity, and being aware of our own mediocrity. 

Being mediocre doesn't mean you can't change the world; it just requires honesty and accepting imperfection. It's also important to listen more than you speak, and to avoid making excuses that hold you back from achieving your goals. 

Finally, negative thoughts like paranoia, resentment, regret, and feelings of scarcity can significantly reduce our intelligence and productivity. By recognizing these feelings when they arise, we can gradually clear them from our minds, making us smarter and better equipped to navigate life. 

Embracing Mediocrity and Clearing Mental Clutter

Honesty truly is the best policy – and it can make you more money too. This might not seem true when you look at scammers like Bernie Madoff, who duped people out of billions of dollars. But their success is short-lived. Madoff ended up in jail and his family suffered devastating consequences. 

The reality is that honesty builds trust and reputation over time. It’s a long-term investment with exponential returns. When you’re honest, people will want to work with you, support you, and invest in you. 

However, honesty is not just about telling the truth. It’s about giving credit where it’s due, not leading a double life, avoiding anger and blame, and making others look good. It’s about enhancing the lives of others, doing what you say you will do, and not making excuses. 

This philosophy is reflected in the story of Alex Day, a young musician who built a successful career without the support of a record label. He used YouTube to connect with his fans, consistently put out new music, engaged with his audience, and never gave up. His story shows that you’re never too young to choose yourself.

The beauty of honesty is that it allows you to build a network of relationships based on trust and respect. It positions you as a source of ideas and opportunities, a person others want to be associated with. It helps you create your own empire. 

Honesty is not just a moral virtue – it’s a powerful tool for success. So be authentic, be transparent, and be true to yourself. It’s the best investment you can make.

Can Honesty Really Make You Richer Than Bernie Madoff?

In his childhood, James made an attempt to fly like Superman which resulted in a broken foot but also imparted a crucial lesson in determination and resilience. He admired Superman's dual identity, finding inspiration in the idea of extraordinary abilities hidden beneath an ordinary exterior. This perspective helped him navigate numerous setbacks and rejections throughout his life.

Later, reflecting on the Beatles' final concert, despite their internal conflicts, James gleaned lessons in competence and dedication to their craft. Their ability to perform together one last time despite personal differences underscored for James the importance of handling rejection gracefully, continually improving, and broadening his horizons.

Woody Allen's career offered lessons in persistence and creativity. Despite numerous failures and personal scandals, Allen's consistent output—anchored in a disciplined work routine—showcased his resilience. James adapted his methods, embraced imperfection, and evolved his art, proving that showing up and maintaining flexibility are keys to long-term success.

An impactful dinner with self-published authors further shaped James's outlook. Witnessing their journey from initial rejections to self-publishing success taught him about choosing oneself and persistently refining one's work. It reinforced the idea that rejection could serve as motivation for achieving success on one's terms.

Through experiences in bars, cold calls, and networking emails, James learned the value of authenticity and improving one's approach in the face of rejection. He came to see rejection as an inevitable part of the journey toward success, a stepping stone rather than a setback.

Lastly, James embraced the wisdom of maintaining connections and not burning bridges. He recognized rejection as a shared experience but believed equally in the universal quality of resilience.

Unleashing Your Inner Superman: Lessons from Gandhi, Woody Allen, The Beatles, and Self-Published Authors

For James, 2012 was a year marked by significant setbacks—failed deals, soured investments, and deteriorating personal relationships. The lesson James drew from this turbulent year was the necessity of maintaining a childlike curiosity and adaptability. 

Instead of allowing failures to define him, he embraced them as opportunities for growth. Just as his six-year-old self believed in fantastical possibilities like rockets to space and backward-seeing glasses, James advocated for approaching life with a mindset that values possibilities over limitations.

Amidst the series of failures in 2012, he learned the significance of diversifying not just investments but also aspects of life. Viewing challenges as solvable mazes, he adopted the curiosity of a child in navigating life's complexities.

Transitioning from these personal tales, it’s clear that the concept of a “job” as a safety net is becoming obsolete. The Industrial Revolution’s promise of corporate security has unraveled, necessitating a shift towards self-sufficiency and choosing oneself. It’s about creating personal, emotional, and financial wealth through a redefined approach to life and career.

To visualize this, imagine a series of concentric circles. The innermost circle represents your primary role, whether it’s a job title or a personal identity. Surrounding this are circles representing those you impact, their connections, and the broader potential of your work. The ultimate goal is to see how your actions ripple outward, potentially affecting the entire world.

Don’t be afraid to redraw these circles, redefining your impact and pushing your potential. Embrace the idea of a redo, much like a child would after a failed test, and continue expanding your influence. By connecting your daily practices with wider circles of influence, you become the source of positive change, not just for yourself but for everyone around you.

In essence, life’s failures and challenges are opportunities to reinvent, reconnect, and reimagine our paths. By viewing our journeys through the curious eyes of a child and the strategic mind of an innovator, we can turn setbacks into stepping stones towards a profoundly impactful life.

Can Embracing Failure and a Child's Curiosity Lead to Success?

The societal shift from single-income to dual-income families post-World War II caused a significant economic boom, with women joining the workforce while men were at war. The resulting prosperity led to the conception of the American Dream, further fueled by marketing campaigns encouraging home ownership. 

However, the pursuit of this dream resulted in social dissatisfaction and economic stress. Temporary relief was provided through various economic booms, but these were ultimately followed by crashes and recessions. 

The key to navigating these changes, as proposed, is through self-empowerment and innovation, coupled with a solid foundation of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

Choosing oneself means prioritizing self-worth and intrinsic value over external validation. It involves understanding that success and happiness are not contingent on societal approval but come from living authentically. 

The journey to self-choice requires the shedding of fear and insecurity, and a shift in focus from external opinions to personal self-assessment. It also involves embracing the present moment, recognizing and accepting emotions and thoughts without being governed by them. 

By choosing oneself, one can become the primary source of their own validation and approval. This journey may be challenging but is ultimately rewarding, paving the way for a life lived on one's own terms.

Home

Trending Books

News & Mags

Relax

Curated

Collections

Key Ideas & Notes

Insights

Highlights & Bookmarks

Listening History